Best friend loves me but is afraid of change... what now?

It's not hard to see that you love her to death. It's not hard to see that she cares for you deeply. But you guys really need to talk. You have already wasted too much time. I know how risky it is to get involved with a best friend. There are many out there that got involved with their best friend's and it didn't work and it ruined the friendship. But there are also many that did make it. If you don't try to find out if this can work then eventually you will have to break the friendship because by staying friend's with her is going to stop you from moving on. So, why not take the risk and see where it will take you. If you both love each other then why torture yourselves this way. If your best friend didn’t have the same feelings for you as you have for her then I would say just walk away. But she loves you and she is very attracted to you. She is even scared to kiss you because she knows that if she does kiss you then there will be no turning back for her. She is only afraid to take the risk of having a relationship with you. Again I say talk to her. Let her know how much you are in love with her. And she needs to admit to you that she is in love with you. I think you are both putting your lives on hold because you are afraid to take your friendship to the next level. No matter which way you look at this, getting involved with someone is always risky. Four years has gone by. Don't let another 4 years go by without doing anything about this. If you are willing to risk it and she's not then you need to take one step back and try to forget about her because you cannot continue to love someone knowing that you will never have a life with her.